Beetles and Roses (Kumbang dan Bunga)

In this post I'm sharing the knowledge that I gained from attending the Beetles and Roses talk recently held at Taylors Lakeside University, Puchong last Tuesday. This talk was organized by the Muslim Student Association of Taylors University with Wardina Safiyyah and Aiman Azlan as the panel.  

1. How to manage a friendship between  male and female?
a. Check your intention - what's the reason for the interaction
b. Always listen to your heart. It detects when we cross the
boundaries. A pure heart will have 6th sense, when we do something
wrong, it will detect it.

There's no such things as a perfect match. Everyone has their flaws.
Accept the person as they are.

Our relationship with Allah is a love story. Love Him and He will lead
you to happiness

We need a pure heart to love purely. Love that can be maintain is true
love. So attach your love to something that is eternal (Allah) and not
something that is temporary (beauty, physical, wealth etc).

2. Get this in your head before marriage:
a. If the love makes you becomes closer to Allah, it's true love.
b. Am I pleasing Allah, if not stay away from it
c. The only happily ever after that exist is Jannah not what the fairy
tales/movies have shown us
d. What we seek is the love from Allah and not from a person.
e. Marriage is a vehicle towards Allah SWT. Which is our final destination.

3. Finding a perfect match:
If someone doesn't pray, it's a sign that he's arrogant and don't
understand the purpose of life. If that person doesn't love Allah, how
will that person love you? For woman, a man who respects you won't
touch you before marriage.

Islam is a religion of pursue and see. Choose a spouse for your
children. Think beyond yourself. Parenting starts before marriage and
the first child you raise is yourself. Before you love someone else,
love yourself first. Love is a lot of hard work n responsibilities.

4. How to be an ideal muslim/muslimah to our spouse?
learn how
1. to regulate emotion in love
2. to regulate your love
3. your love contribute to happiness

5. Marriage:
Marry a person because of Allah. Get our intention right, why do we
want to get married? Because we want to be a better Muslim. Jika niat
kita kerana Allah, Allah akan bantu. Marriage is an investment to go
to Jannah.

" We're not finding a perfect match but being a perfect match "

My write up here is a bit haywire but if you want to watch the whole talk, it was recorded and you can find it here and/or here. I hope the post today will be beneficial to all of you. 

Till then~